Thursday, February 05, 2004
Andrew Sullivan points to this post on Winds of Change as an example of a straight guy defending the idea of gay marriage.
I just want to highlight a key paragraph from the post, and a key phrase within that paragraph:
What it is that matters in a marriage? Commitment. Duration. Primacy. It is a commitment - which means that in the face of conflicting desires, you have to anyway. It has duration - meaning it gains in value over time. An old good relationship is better than a new one. My dream is to grow old with TG, and to have the span of our history together as a part of what we share. It means that I will take care of her, and be taken care of by her in turn, and that in the time where long shadows come over our lives, we won't be alone in facing them. And it has primacy over your other relationships. The act of saying to this person "You are the most important person in my life. Not my children, not my boss, not my pastor or anyone else matters more to me than you do," fundamentally changes both one's life and one's relationships to others.
I don't think Maggie Gallagher could have made her point any clearer.